I didn't mean it to be kind of a dismissal, I just know that some people are looking for something really specific in their donors like specific hair color, eye color, body type, ethnic background, health history, etc. I didn't know if you had something specific in mind...my sperm wouldn't do you any good if you wanted a blonde baby or a mixed race one, or one that could grow up and invent the cure for cancer or something. That's all I meant, and if that was the case, I didn't want you to feel guilty turning me down. That probably would've come across more accurately in person or on a video, but oh well. Sorry about that.
You know, someday if you find the right person to marry, you're going to make a really fucking lucky man or woman out of them, you know that? You're kind of amazing and I count myself pretty fucking fortunate to be able to call you my friend, Laura. Thank you. A million times, thank you.
How do you mean as co-parents? I don't think I follow, I thought that was kind of the idea, like...you'd help me with the werewolf parts, I can answer any questions you might have along the way (although, I think your genes are going to trump any bumps in the road mine would bring, with that healing thing), and our kids kinda grow up together and we lean on each other as needed since we'd be going through the process at the same time. No? I feel like I'm missing something?
Genuinely all I want is a happy and healthy kid and the second part is a guarantee - the rest is all up in the air and not up to me and I'm pretty happy to leave it up in the air. I don't really feel the need to shop around either if you're healthy and this could pan out - no guilt involved, promise, but I get you. It was my get out of offer free card if I needed it.
And stop you're going to make me blush over here. That's really sweet, Eddie - don't know what's in the cards for me but I appreciate that. You're none too fucking happy when it comes to friendship yourself, you know? So thank you too because all of this - talking this out with you - has been a pretty fucking big help.
I mean that instead of two kids we share one - it'd solve you finding a surrogate or gestational carrier, you definitely wouldn't be dealing with having to find one or a stranger, and it keeps the same support system that we were already planning on having, basically. We'd have someone each to parent with/alongside if we considered this option and we'd split time, which isn't too hard considering we literally live in the same apartment building etc. Again - it's just laying an option out there, but it could work in theory.
Essentially, yeah, I just didn't want you to feel bad if what I had to offer wasn't really what you were looking for.
No, seriously, if I was a decade younger or you were a decade older and we met some other way, you know? But either way, I'm really glad we met and became friends. You've been really good for me. I'm glad I can help in any way at all, especially something this big, so I'm glad to hear that the benefits aren't all coming my way.
So...like literally just have a baby together but with clinical conception instead of the natural way? That's....either the best idea I've ever heard of or the worst. It sounds like the best... But nothing good is that easy, in my experience, so I like the idea, like a lot actually, but I don't know if we should.
Do you think we should talk to a child psychologist to see if that would have a negative impact on the kid or should we just talk it over with each other and see if Derek and Stan can lend their thoughts in addition and weigh it out like that?
In another life maybe we would've been a power couple, but in this one I'm just grateful that we got the chance to meet and that I can consider you a friend and whether you like it or not part of my pack. You're a great guy and I'm glad I've got you around for more than just the ease of sperm, seriously.
That's exactly what I mean. I have no idea if it's the right thing, but we're both looking at our options so this is one of them.
Maybe all of the above - lets start with us and our circle. We come up with concerns or questions to present to a professional with the help of Derek and Stan along the way and once we know if it's even a possibility we ask the pro?
Hah, I don't know about all THAT. But all the same. I guess if we do this, then...I really would be part of the pack. There's something I never thought I'd say, that I'm part of a werewolf pack.
Yeah, we're maybe getting a little ahead of ourselves. I don't even know if I'm viable, so yeah. Let's make our appointment as a dual one, then. The consultation, I mean. Let the doctor know what we want and the options we've considered and see what they think, and take it from there. I think they schedule the fertility testing after that or maybe at the same time, I'm not sure. Then we can pick Derek and Stan's brains once we've determined whether it's a healthy, viable option. Think your connection at the clinic can fast-track us in for the appointment sooner than later?
You really would be, though it's not that much of a change from how things are truth be told.
Dual appointment and fast-tracked fertility testing sounds doable to me - I've covered enough shifts and got a great relationship with the clinic myself as a dispatch that I don't think it is a hard ask. I'll text you the information from the appointment when I've got it! And then we'll go from there.
Is it fucked up that I'm weirdly excited about this? Like more than I already was when I came to the decision to start the process in the first place? Because I am. I have a really good feeling about this.
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You know, someday if you find the right person to marry, you're going to make a really fucking lucky man or woman out of them, you know that? You're kind of amazing and I count myself pretty fucking fortunate to be able to call you my friend, Laura. Thank you. A million times, thank you.
How do you mean as co-parents? I don't think I follow, I thought that was kind of the idea, like...you'd help me with the werewolf parts, I can answer any questions you might have along the way (although, I think your genes are going to trump any bumps in the road mine would bring, with that healing thing), and our kids kinda grow up together and we lean on each other as needed since we'd be going through the process at the same time. No? I feel like I'm missing something?
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And stop you're going to make me blush over here. That's really sweet, Eddie - don't know what's in the cards for me but I appreciate that. You're none too fucking happy when it comes to friendship yourself, you know? So thank you too because all of this - talking this out with you - has been a pretty fucking big help.
I mean that instead of two kids we share one - it'd solve you finding a surrogate or gestational carrier, you definitely wouldn't be dealing with having to find one or a stranger, and it keeps the same support system that we were already planning on having, basically. We'd have someone each to parent with/alongside if we considered this option and we'd split time, which isn't too hard considering we literally live in the same apartment building etc. Again - it's just laying an option out there, but it could work in theory.
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No, seriously, if I was a decade younger or you were a decade older and we met some other way, you know? But either way, I'm really glad we met and became friends. You've been really good for me. I'm glad I can help in any way at all, especially something this big, so I'm glad to hear that the benefits aren't all coming my way.
So...like literally just have a baby together but with clinical conception instead of the natural way? That's....either the best idea I've ever heard of or the worst. It sounds like the best... But nothing good is that easy, in my experience, so I like the idea, like a lot actually, but I don't know if we should.
Do you think we should talk to a child psychologist to see if that would have a negative impact on the kid or should we just talk it over with each other and see if Derek and Stan can lend their thoughts in addition and weigh it out like that?
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That's exactly what I mean. I have no idea if it's the right thing, but we're both looking at our options so this is one of them.
Maybe all of the above - lets start with us and our circle. We come up with concerns or questions to present to a professional with the help of Derek and Stan along the way and once we know if it's even a possibility we ask the pro?
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Yeah, we're maybe getting a little ahead of ourselves. I don't even know if I'm viable, so yeah. Let's make our appointment as a dual one, then. The consultation, I mean. Let the doctor know what we want and the options we've considered and see what they think, and take it from there. I think they schedule the fertility testing after that or maybe at the same time, I'm not sure. Then we can pick Derek and Stan's brains once we've determined whether it's a healthy, viable option. Think your connection at the clinic can fast-track us in for the appointment sooner than later?
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Dual appointment and fast-tracked fertility testing sounds doable to me - I've covered enough shifts and got a great relationship with the clinic myself as a dispatch that I don't think it is a hard ask. I'll text you the information from the appointment when I've got it! And then we'll go from there.
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